There is a lot of confusion nowadays as to the role of a husband and wife in a Christian marriage. Much of it comes from the rising divorce rate which usually leaves mothers and fathers to assume both roles for their children. Some of the confusion comes because mothers and fathers oftentimes refuse to fulfill their God-given roles. The Bible makes it clear that husbands and their wives are equal in relationship to Christ (Galatians 3:28). However, the Bible assigns different primary roles to them.

Husbands are to love their wives just as Jesus Christ loves the church. The most famous passage concerning a husband’s role in the family is found in Ephesians 5:25-26: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word.” Ephesians 5:25-26 clearly states that husbands are to love their wives in the same way that Christ loves the church (His people). Christ loved the church with compassion, mercy, forgiveness, respect, and selflessness. Christ also showed His love for the church by sacrificing Himself for it – for us. In the same way, a husband’s priority must be to give his love, time, resources, and even his own life for his wife.

Husbands are also to love their wives just as they do their own bodies. The Bible tells us this in Ephesians 5:28: "In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself." Husbands would not fail to feed and nurture their own bodies, so they need to do the same for their wives.

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